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Sometimes marriage seems easier to understand
for what it cuts out of our lives than for what it
makes possible within our lives. When I was
younger this fear immobilised me. I did not want to
make a mistake.

I saw my friends getting married for reasons of
social acceptability, or sexual fervour, or just
because they thought it was the logical thing to do.
Then I watched as they and their partners became
embittered and petty in their dealings with each other.

I looked at older couples and saw, at best, mutual
toleration. I imagined a lifetime of loveless nights
and bickering days and could not imagine
subjecting myself or someone else to such a fate.

On rare occasions, I would see old couples
somehow seemed to glow in each others
presence. They seemed really in love, not just
dependent upon each other and tolerant of each
others foibles. It was an astounding sight, and
it seemed impossible. How, I asked myself, can
they have survived so many years of sameness, so
much irritation at t…